RANSVESTIA

Dear Virginia,

I have read with great interest and enjoyment the many stories, both fact and fiction, the historic accounts and the theories of and about FPia and I have come to realize that I too have thoughts on FPia. I am a new subscriber to TV'ia, but I am a long time dresser. And, too, like many other FPs, I have married. Having made this step, I realize that I have additional obligations and duties other than satisfying my femme-self's needs. I have a wife I must satisfy. I must satisfy her as a man. I have duties to my children, such as not forcing any undue embarrassments upon them. They are too young to unders- tand why "daddy dresses like mommy." They might eventually un- derstand daddy's needs to be his femme-self, but not now during their childhood.

My wife married me as a man and she deserves to have a man. If she feels uncomfortable around me when I am dressed up, then I must limit my dressing to when she is not around. If she tolerates it to cer- tain limits, then by all means I must contain my femme-self to those circumstances.

It is very exciting to dream about living our lives as our femme- selves, but what are we giving our wives. My wife is not a lesbian. She does not want to make love to another woman, nor does she want to live the remainder of her life with another woman. She needs to be lov- ed; loved by a man the way only a man can satisfy her.

If she allows me to dress in front of her, I must be just a "girl" friend to her not a lover. Our marriage is based on love and un- derstanding for each other's wants and needs. If she understands my need to dress up, then I must be willing to understand her need to have

a man.

Unsigned

Dear Virginia,

It has been a few months since I wrote to you, but I feel that I owe you a big thank you.

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